Wow, so here we are, my own real web page and our first real blog. Where to start? I have been writing for years, I used to keep an active blog on Myspace. Does anybody remember Myspace? Shesh, I am old right. After that, I got a Live Journal, I admit no one ever read that but not because I wasn’t interesting. I barely ever posted. I always kept a journal growing up, too. My first “diary” I was eleven. I loved writing, would write stories and poetry as a kid.
We have started The Shade of Writing as a Shadow’s Lair family venture. The Shadow’s Lair Family is a family of two dads and two kids, not to unusual. We love to travel, and will post about our travels, everyday lives, fantasy writings, and just a general hodgepodge of things. We also have a goal to one day own a family farm and shop. We will use this blog to update our progress on this goal. For those of you who found this after following the Shadow’s Lair for years, thank you for your continued support. If this is your first time reading our writing, welcome and thank you. Feel free to follow us on Patreon.
Left to Right Cera, Jayson, Damien, Aaron, 2011 Maryland Hiking trip
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Today’s wisdom is going to be short and sweet, do not let others determine who you are. Today you design who you are. Embrace it.
By Damien Skye Knight
Today’s motivation is ‘forgive yourself’ and accept mistakes in others. I have already talked about how we have to “Shed Your Past”. Today I want to talk about one way we do that. We do this through forgiveness, not just of others but yourself. We are our hardest critics, sometimes we can’t help blame ourselves for things we couldn’t control. Or maybe we could but now it’s too late to change it.
What do you do if you can’t forgive yourself? Wallow? Last month was yet another anniversary to the death of my beloved Misty. She was murdered April 2005. For years I beat myself up over her. If I asked her to stay would she be alive? The truth is, it is something I cannot change and I will never know. All I can do is forgive myself. I can’t control it nor can I change it. If I did something to another person and it causes me guilt the only action I have available now is apology. If they accept it great if not I still need to move on and forgive myself.
The last part is forgetting other’s wrongs. We never truly forgive and forget with other people as humans our memories make a large part of our identity. To forgive ourselves and others though we have to accept mistakes that are made and do so with grace. This is hard when the other party refuses to acknowledge wrongdoing, abuse, or suffering caused to you. Ask yourself does holding on to that anger and resentment help you heal? The answer is no. Let go and accept what has happened in this way you forgive them and move forward on your journey to forgive yourself.
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By Damien Knight
Forget the anger the pain the tears
The hated stare of my eyes in the mirror
Empty cold basket of despair
My burden alone to bare
I am tired of the echoing in my head
It used to be so much I’d wish myself dead
Now I just wish it were silent
These thoughts left unsaid
I can’t cry due to blinding rage
I am trapped in my body, this infernal cage
I peck at the bars and crow
But outsiders laugh as if it were stage
My life is not your amusement
I am not just a character for torment
I too am a man
With feelings I lament
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By Damien Knight
The ice grows in my veins,
cold, encroaching on my heart.
The fire, where is the flame?
I searched every part
of this forbidding land.
Am I cursed to a lonely grave?
No! There in her hand
the fire I so crave.
These frozen winter plumes
could thaw at last;
this desolate raven grooms
away his checkered past.
I will reach for the fire
and warm my soul
embrace her desire
and find us as a whole.
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By Damien Knight
A thorn that traces
the side of my flesh
is lovelier than any flower
in my garden.
The sighs I expel
when she is gone
could fog the evening
and form the dew.
The growl she elicits
when she is near
just under breath
I must control.
This hungry love
I feel so deep
I never want it to go.
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