A New Light, A New Day

Wow, so here we are, my own real web page and our first real blog. Where to start? I have been writing for years, I used to keep an active blog on Myspace. Does anybody remember Myspace? Shesh, I am old right. After that, I got a Live Journal, I admit no one ever read that but not because I wasn’t interesting. I barely ever posted. I always kept a journal growing up, too. My first “diary” I was eleven. I loved writing, would write stories and poetry as a kid.
We have started The Shade of Writing as a Shadow’s Lair family venture. The Shadow’s Lair Family is a family of two dads and two kids, not to unusual. We love to travel, and will post about our travels, everyday lives, fantasy writings, and just a general hodgepodge of things. We also have a goal to one day own a family farm and shop. We will use this blog to update our progress on this goal. For those of you who found this after following the Shadow’s Lair for years, thank you for your continued support. If this is your first time reading our writing, welcome and thank you. Feel free to follow us on Patreon.

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Left to Right Cera, Jayson, Damien, Aaron, 2011 Maryland Hiking trip

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Writing Update

As I am pressed to finish my novel, I believe I shall post inspiration Mondays once a month on second Monday of each month. I am close to finishing on my novel.

Meanwhile, the children have been writing assignments of their own and soon some may be posted here.

Monday Motivation: Accepting Life Radically

What is radical acceptance? The other day one of my best friends said in a chat group, “People really need to learn to radically accept their disabilities.” This prompted another person to say something about not having heard of it, which confused us because our whole chat was a bunch of people who radically accepted they were disabled. Some of us were doing so, it seems, with no idea what the word for it was.

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Monday Motivation: Failure is an Option

For me, failure was always hard to accept. With NPD, nothing less than being seen as perfect was ok. The problem was nothing I did felt like success. I often felt my failures made me a bad person. That my many mistakes meant I could never succeed and then I had to remind myself of my favourite childhood quote from Paul “Bear” Bryant:  

“When you make a mistake, there are only three things you should ever do about it:

1. Admit it.

2. Learn from it, and

3. Don’t repeat it.”

An empty football field at night with a qoute written in white font.

Mistakes didn’t mean I was bad, just that I should learn from them. It was ok not to know things; it was ok to have failure. Failure and mistakes are part of learning. It is part of the experience. As Adam Savage said, “Failure is always an option.” Being able to accept this option though took me some work.

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            I had to reframe my failure as a success. That each time I made a mistake, I really was on track to succeed. My failures aren’t failures, really. When I messed up, I simply just made another step to success.

Step shelves with star and quote in blue font

Striving to be perfect does not bring the admiration I desire. Being able to fail with grace, to be successful and admit my failings is not a bad thing. I do not think my mistakes make me a failure or a bad person. When I mess up, I learn from that and move on. It is ok to make mistakes.

Garbage can with crumpled paper and blue font quote.

Failure is an option. Your mistakes are steps to success. They are not dark marks that make you a bad person. Learn from them, use them to grow and keep on staying motivated.

Blog Updates and Goals for 2021

Blog Centered Updates

I will return to posting regularly on this blog, though for myself I will only post the Monday Motivations. I shall have the posts first thing Monday mornings CST time. My children will post stories and art when they can.

 I also have or will take down all the Aldaria posts as I finalize my novel. I found the subscriber feature to the blog to be unusable. I do not wish to have the Aldaria work posted publicly at this time, though I may in the future.

Promotion and Goals for Shadow’s Lair and The Shade of Writing

We also opened a CafePress store:  The Shadow’s Lair Store. We post weekly on YouTube, which you can find here: The Shadow’s Lair Finally, we have a Patreon and will post family vlog posts with early access for patrons. Also, all Aldaria writings will be available to patrons.

To Our Fans: Thank You

Thank you for remaining with us all these years. If you like what we do, remember to follow our blog, like and subscribe, and support us on Patreon 

New Year’s Resolutions

Greetings readers and friends. Every year I usually post my Thankfuls during November and my New Year Resolutions on New Year’s Eve. As most of you know, this year I lost several family to non-Covid related illnesses. It was difficult to find things I was thankful for while I grieved so many losses in such a short time. It has been difficult to think of things I would resolve to do in the coming year as well.

While this is late, I wish to give my short list of Thankfuls now:

  1. I am grateful that I got to see Mum as often as I had before she passed. I am grateful that we did as much as we could to make her last years better.
  2. I am grateful for my family. For being able to have them close to me.
  3. I am grateful for all of you who have kept following me through the years.

Now for my New Year’s resolutions:

  1. To post a regular schedule of blog posts at least twice a week.
  2. To finish editing my novel by December 2021
  3. To post 1 vlog post a week with family this year.
  4. To organize and input grades during homeschooling time every day.
  5. To do at least one write-in every day.
  6. Survive the pandemic.

Grieved Heart

Open weeping break me down
how to smile? Dust on the ground
Float away leave me here
Drifting in these tears

Left alone to stare blank
At all the passing years
Memories flow away
Left with just my fears

You asked us to celebrate
But all I can do is break
The stream drowning me inside
May I drink and die?

Why must this hurt so much
The house so empty without you
Where is your laugh your touch
All I have are these memories

The house will empty of trace
And someday I may forget your face
And if I ever do I rather be gone now
Than to live thinking I'd forget somehow